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Ask For More

Monday, April 17th, 2017

The Ringling Brothers and Barnum and Bailey’s Greatest Show on Earth will come to a close in May 2017 after performing for 146 years. Declining attendance and high operating costs were cited as the reasons for the circus folding its big top. What caused the most controversy while the circus was in operation was the training and handling of the circus animals that performed for the audiences.

Circus elephants are captive, helpless animals. A small circus elephant’s leg is tied to a rope attached to a stake. As much as the baby elephant tries to break free from the rope, it can’t, because the rope is too strong. Later, when the elephant weighs 6 or 7 tons and has tremendous strength, it can still be constrained by a large rope and a light wooden stake. Circus elephants learn early in life that they have limitations. They learn to be helpless and weak. What was once true will always be true — at least, that is the story the elephants tell themselves throughout their lives. They are imprisoned by their self-limiting beliefs.

You are not an elephant

Many of us are like circus elephants. We have tremendous strength, but we feel powerless to change. Many of us have been told by loved ones that we will never be able to change. So in many areas of our lives, we are convinced that change is impossible. Many of us tell ourselves that we are powerless, and we stick to our own self -limiting beliefs to justify why we can’t change. Yet since a belief is just a thought that you keep thinking, if you change your thinking, you can change your beliefs. When you know for sure that you can change, you pull up the stake. You free yourself of any self-limiting beliefs.

Some of the most common self-limiting beliefs are:

  • I’m too old.
  • I’m not smart enough.
  • I’m not educated enough.
  • I’m afraid I might fail.
  • It takes money to make money, but I’m broke.
  • I’ve already tried everything, and nothing ever seems to work in my favor.
  • It’s selfish to want more. I’m content with what I have.
  • I don’t feel that I really deserve it.
  • I don’t have the willpower to follow through on my goals.
  • When it comes right down to it, all the good jobs, opportunities, careers and franchises are taken.
The power of beliefs

We cling to our self-limiting beliefs because they are our way out. We tell ourselves that we can’t, so we don’t make an attempt to achieve our lifelong goals and dreams. Social psychologist Albert Bandura said that if you believe you can achieve something, then this belief will determine how you think, behave and feel. People who believe in themselves and their abilities take on challenging tasks, are deeply involved in the activities they take on, have a strong sense of commitment to these activities, and recover quickly from any failures or roadblocks they encounter. Beliefs are thoughts, so if you change your thoughts, you can achieve anything!

Asking for more

In my book, Ask for More, I encourage readers to ask for more in their lives. It is often said, “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.” I wrote Ask for More to help readers align their values with their life goals in order to reach true success. Once you decide to change your life story and experience to the one you would like to have in your life rather than the one you have always had in the past, you are on your way to success.

Through asking for more, we can experience the journey of life by adopting a positive attitude and seeking out opportunities that can change our lives for the better. In childhood, we ask for what we want most, and when we are turned down consistently, we stop asking for what we want and live with our limitations. As adults, we stop asking out of fear that we will be turned down. Yet we can ask for more — of ourselves and of life.

So ask for the promotion at work, and take action to attain your goal. Ask for a new or improved relationship with your spouse or children, and start spending more time with the people you love. Ask for a healthier body, and start watching what you eat and begin an exercise regimen. Ask for the sale, the bonus, the raise, the promotion, a new home, a new job, or whatever it is you want in your life.

It’s never too late

Stop hiding behind your self-limiting beliefs, and make things happen in your life. It’s never too late! Harlan Sanders was 73 when he sold his KFC franchise for $2 million. Washington Roebling was paralyzed by Caisson disease while building the Brooklyn Bridge but nevertheless oversaw its construction through a telescope from his home as his wife saw to the daily operations onsite — without cell phones. In 1955, Ray Kroc, a 52-year-old milkshake machine salesman, asked for more by buying out the McDonald brothers and creating a fast food empire!

As Henry Ford reputedly said, “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.” Use my book, Ask for More, as a template for improving your life. We all leave ourselves plenty of room for improvement, and the book offers action steps to get where you want to go. When you attract success by taking action to realize your dreams, you will get closer to realizing your aspirations. As you put aside your self-limiting beliefs and replace them with positive affirmations, you can begin to take action toward success in your life.

Ask for More, a testimony to personal growth and achievement, will be released for sale in June 2017.

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