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The Secret to Living Your Dream: Do It!

Thursday, May 25th, 2017

Emma Morano died the oldest woman in the world, at the age of 117. She was listed in the Guinness Book of World Records. Her secret to living to 117 was eating raw eggs and cookies. It is never too late to live out your lifelong dreams. Age, lack of talent, education, connections, or status are all self-limiting beliefs, which we use to talk ourselves out of taking the initiative to begin a lifelong project or goal!

 

Start Now

In my book, Ask for More, Chapter 2, “Start Here: Taking the Initiative,” I discuss the importance of taking the initiative to change the course of your life. When you take the initiative, you recognize the need to take action and are not satisfied with waiting for an opportunity to present itself to you. I encourage readers to start wherever they are in life and not to wait until something else happens that pushes them to take the initiative.

 

Don’t Wait for “If”

Many people tell themselves that they will get married when they buy a house. Many people say that they have a great idea for a small business that they want to start as soon as they get the required capital. Many people say that they will go back to school to finish their degree when the timing is right. Making one action contingent on another is a waste of time and energy. The time to take action is always now!

 

Take the Initiative

Research suggests that 95% of all people who make New Year’s resolutions break them by January 15. We make these resolutions because everyone is making them, so we are swept up in this wave of change. Since the calendar is changing, we feel that we have to change with it. For that matter, why don’t we make monthly resolutions? The calendar is changing, so, why not? Look for reasons to take initiative. Find ten things you would like to change about yourself and get to work. Look around your home; if there is clutter or unwanted items around, donate or sell them. If there are negative habits in your life that bring you down, replace them with positive ones.

Start Anywhere

Wednesday, May 17th, 2017

The root of the word initiative is ‘to initiate or bring into being.’ Whatever it is that you want to achieve, you have to begin at some point. In Chapter 2 of Ask for More, “Start Here: Taking the Initiative,” I discuss the importance of taking initiative at work and at home You have to take action toward your goal.

Break out of the Cubicle

When you take the initiative at work, you handle duties and responsibilities autonomously without the direction and tutelage of others. Taking the initiative means coming up with creative solutions to problems that arise, helping co-workers with projects by lending them your expertise, and volunteering your time with another department so you can learn new skills along the way.

Break Your Personal Patterns

In your personal life, taking the initiative means being the first to break an uncomfortable silence after a long disagreement with a partner or loved one. It means seeing someone in a café, a stranger with whom you could possibly spend the rest of your life, and starting a conversation. Taking the initiative means being the one to fix a damaged relationship or to know when it is time to let someone go.

Break the Mold

When it comes to your life-long dreams, taking the initiative means starting from where you are right now. If you want to get a star for acting on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, start by acting in high school, college, and local productions. If you want to run a marathon, start by running a few miles every day, for about a month, and build up your endurance. If you want a promotion at work, learn the duties and functions of the position you are after a year ahead of time and research the position completely. Work alongside the person who has the position you’re after and ask him or her to mentor you.

Taking the initiative means working with the skills that you currently have and building on them gradually until you reach your ultimate goals. Don’t be discouraged if you feel that you don’t have the right skills, background, or education. Use what you have and go for it!

What’s Your Number?

Tuesday, May 9th, 2017

 

Number 42, Breaking Ground

On April 15, 2017, Major League Baseball celebrated Jackie Robinson Day. It was on April 15, 1947, that Jackie Robinson wore #42 to play for the Brooklyn Dodgers. It was Jackie Robinson’s major league debut. Robinson’s debut in the world of major league baseball was a huge, groundbreaking event for African-American civil rights in the United States. By putting on his new uniform and wearing #42, Jackie Robinson stepped into the world of responsibility, of standing up for himself in a game that had been traditionally played a certain way, namely without African-American players. He displayed singular acts of courage and faith to wear his uniform and bear the responsibility of changing the way we view professional athletes in general.

 

Number Beyond Measuring

Now, 70 years later, the world understands that professional athletes around the world bear the responsibility of performing to the top of their individual games and setting a higher standard for the young people who admire them, the fans who come to their games to support them, and the consumers who demonstrate belief in them by purchasing the products they endorse.

We all love a hero. We love an athlete who takes the spotlight after months and years of grueling training and self-denial. We admire the talent, exuberance, and sheer force of will that they display in their respective sports. To name just a few, this includes players like Julius Erving, #6 for the Philadelphia 76ers, Michael Jordan, #23 for the Chicago Bulls, and Tom Brady, #12 for the New England Patriots.

 

Putting Number One First

In my book, Ask for More, I ask readers to ask for more responsibility in their lives and in their careers. Ask for the raise. Ask for the promotion. Ask for the business that you always dreamed about. By asking for more, we are asking for more of ourselves. We are looking for the #42 in ourselves; we are looking for the courage to face our dreams and not settle for a mediocre life.

We should ask for the larger vision, the bigger dream, for ourselves and our families. By asking for more, we are raising our standards and using our faith to believe in ourselves, trust our instincts, and find our inner hero. Ask for more today, and reap the benefits in your life tomorrow.

The Uniforms We Wear and the Responsibilities We Bear

Tuesday, May 2nd, 2017

 

What Sets Us Apart

When I was in elementary school, I was enrolled in a private, Jewish school. The students were all assigned uniforms. The boys were required to wear gray slacks and powder-blue shirts, while the girls were required to wear powder-blue shirts and navy-blue tunics. While public opinion on the importance of uniforms in schools has changed over the years, as a teacher, I believe that students’ uniforms may actually affect their mindsets. The wearing of the uniform allows one to bear the responsibility that it carries. Since we all wore the same uniform, what set us apart was how we performed in the classroom.

 

What a Uniform Stands For

This is why it is so important to wear a clean suit to a job interview. By stepping into our uniforms, we are stepping into our roles and responsibilities every day. Whatever your uniform, wear it proudly and accept the responsibilities that it represents.

In my book, Ask for More, I present the uniforms we wear every day in our lives to represent the responsibility they carry for us. Police officers wear their uniforms to set them apart from the civilian public and show civilians that it is their responsibility to serve and protect the public. Workers in retail stores wear uniforms in order to show the public that they are prepared to offer them service while such uniforms also indicate rank and file in the company.

 

Choose to Change

By accepting the responsibility of wearing the uniform, you are stepping into the world of choice. You act autonomously in your life without the authorization of others. You accept the consequences of your actions. Just as I have changed uniforms several times throughout my careers, it is never too late to change what you are doing and take on a new responsibility.

By changing your uniform and accepting new responsibilities, you will unleash your real potential. By stepping into responsibilities, you will notice how your true talents shine through and you will wonder why you never asked for these responsibilities years ago. Ask for More of yourself and you will be able to get more for yourself and your family! Ask for More today!

Ask For More

Monday, April 17th, 2017

The Ringling Brothers and Barnum and Bailey’s Greatest Show on Earth will come to a close in May 2017 after performing for 146 years. Declining attendance and high operating costs were cited as the reasons for the circus folding its big top. What caused the most controversy while the circus was in operation was the training and handling of the circus animals that performed for the audiences.

Circus elephants are captive, helpless animals. A small circus elephant’s leg is tied to a rope attached to a stake. As much as the baby elephant tries to break free from the rope, it can’t, because the rope is too strong. Later, when the elephant weighs 6 or 7 tons and has tremendous strength, it can still be constrained by a large rope and a light wooden stake. Circus elephants learn early in life that they have limitations. They learn to be helpless and weak. What was once true will always be true — at least, that is the story the elephants tell themselves throughout their lives. They are imprisoned by their self-limiting beliefs.

You are not an elephant

Many of us are like circus elephants. We have tremendous strength, but we feel powerless to change. Many of us have been told by loved ones that we will never be able to change. So in many areas of our lives, we are convinced that change is impossible. Many of us tell ourselves that we are powerless, and we stick to our own self -limiting beliefs to justify why we can’t change. Yet since a belief is just a thought that you keep thinking, if you change your thinking, you can change your beliefs. When you know for sure that you can change, you pull up the stake. You free yourself of any self-limiting beliefs.

Some of the most common self-limiting beliefs are:

  • I’m too old.
  • I’m not smart enough.
  • I’m not educated enough.
  • I’m afraid I might fail.
  • It takes money to make money, but I’m broke.
  • I’ve already tried everything, and nothing ever seems to work in my favor.
  • It’s selfish to want more. I’m content with what I have.
  • I don’t feel that I really deserve it.
  • I don’t have the willpower to follow through on my goals.
  • When it comes right down to it, all the good jobs, opportunities, careers and franchises are taken.
The power of beliefs

We cling to our self-limiting beliefs because they are our way out. We tell ourselves that we can’t, so we don’t make an attempt to achieve our lifelong goals and dreams. Social psychologist Albert Bandura said that if you believe you can achieve something, then this belief will determine how you think, behave and feel. People who believe in themselves and their abilities take on challenging tasks, are deeply involved in the activities they take on, have a strong sense of commitment to these activities, and recover quickly from any failures or roadblocks they encounter. Beliefs are thoughts, so if you change your thoughts, you can achieve anything!

Asking for more

In my book, Ask for More, I encourage readers to ask for more in their lives. It is often said, “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.” I wrote Ask for More to help readers align their values with their life goals in order to reach true success. Once you decide to change your life story and experience to the one you would like to have in your life rather than the one you have always had in the past, you are on your way to success.

Through asking for more, we can experience the journey of life by adopting a positive attitude and seeking out opportunities that can change our lives for the better. In childhood, we ask for what we want most, and when we are turned down consistently, we stop asking for what we want and live with our limitations. As adults, we stop asking out of fear that we will be turned down. Yet we can ask for more — of ourselves and of life.

So ask for the promotion at work, and take action to attain your goal. Ask for a new or improved relationship with your spouse or children, and start spending more time with the people you love. Ask for a healthier body, and start watching what you eat and begin an exercise regimen. Ask for the sale, the bonus, the raise, the promotion, a new home, a new job, or whatever it is you want in your life.

It’s never too late

Stop hiding behind your self-limiting beliefs, and make things happen in your life. It’s never too late! Harlan Sanders was 73 when he sold his KFC franchise for $2 million. Washington Roebling was paralyzed by Caisson disease while building the Brooklyn Bridge but nevertheless oversaw its construction through a telescope from his home as his wife saw to the daily operations onsite — without cell phones. In 1955, Ray Kroc, a 52-year-old milkshake machine salesman, asked for more by buying out the McDonald brothers and creating a fast food empire!

As Henry Ford reputedly said, “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.” Use my book, Ask for More, as a template for improving your life. We all leave ourselves plenty of room for improvement, and the book offers action steps to get where you want to go. When you attract success by taking action to realize your dreams, you will get closer to realizing your aspirations. As you put aside your self-limiting beliefs and replace them with positive affirmations, you can begin to take action toward success in your life.

Ask for More, a testimony to personal growth and achievement, will be released for sale in June 2017.

The Secret of Life [video]

Friday, December 16th, 2016

As you know, gratitude is my mission. One of my mentors is Robert Emmons, PhD. Psychology, UC Davis, speaks regularly on this topic.

Here is one of my favorite videos of him discussing gratitude.  

Gratitude Works!: The Science and Practice of Saying Thanks

by Robert Emmons

It’s about 1 hour 12 minutes long. Hope you enjoy and let me know what you think!

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